DEAR VANESSA,My mother had a fall and was in rehab for a while. Her doctor recommended in-home support, but my mom’s resistance to care has kept her from getting the help that she needs. She has always been independent and I’m afraid that her indifference or reluctance to accept outside help can and will compromise her safety and wellbeing.-ANGELO
DEAR ANGELO,
It is not uncommon for seniors to refuse help, especially if they have been independent. You mother may find it hard to admit or recognize the fact that she cannot do things as well as she used to do. David Stephen, PhD, wrote: “Elders often deny they need assistance or that their abilities are diminishing. It is difficult to admit that one needs help, because that may be perceived as indicating a loss of independence and a loss of self worth.”