Vanessa Valerio

RN • CMC • CHCA • Chief Nursing Officer • PAC Coach • 20+ Years Experience

With over two decades of experience in eldercare and family support, Vanessa brings practical wisdom and heartfelt understanding to every question. As the Chief Nursing Officer for Patient Care at Care Indeed and a Positive Approach to Care (PaC) Dementia Coach Certified professional, she offers guidance grounded in both expertise and compassion.

Her advice column has helped thousands of families find clarity, confidence, and comfort during some of their most challenging moments.

Also published in the Palo Alto Daily Post

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How do I help my parents accept care without making them feel they’re losing independence?

You can shift the conversation from loss to empowerment, start small, and invite their input. Listening to their fears helps them feel respected and more open to support.

Home Care

June 30, 2025

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Why am I feeling so tired, irritated, or numb while caregiving, and what does it mean?

You may be experiencing compassion fatigue—when your heart grows tired from caring daily. It doesn’t mean you love less; it only means your emotional capacity needs care too.

Caregiving

January 01, 2025

When should I consider geriatric care management, and how do I choose the right person?

You may benefit from a geriatric care manager when aging needs become unclear. They guide you through medical, safety, and care decisions so you’re not navigating alone.

Home Care

December 11, 2025

When should I start considering home care for my mother, and how do I prepare for it?

You may consider home care when you notice small shifts in daily abilities or safety. Exploring options early lets you understand support, plan ahead, and avoid rushing in a crisis.

Home Care

December 18, 2025

How do I handle two excellent caregivers who don’t get along without losing either one?

You can refocus both caregivers on your mom’s well-being, set expectations for respect, and involve a supervisor if needed. Your peace matters, and you don’t have to mediate alone.

Caregiving

June 19, 2025

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